Conflict & Repair Pattern
Conflict & Repair Pattern is a 20-item self-report assessment that usually takes about 4 minutes. Notice how you pursue, withdraw, defend, and return when a close relationship becomes tense.
It breaks down the sequence inside disagreement: what activates you, what you do next, how the other person may interpret it, and how you return. The focus is changeable behavior rather than defining either person.
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What this test explores
The result covers pursuing, withdrawing, defending, and collaborative repair. Questions ask about recurring reactions in ordinary situations. Answer from what you usually do, not the response that sounds most desirable.
How scoring works
Each of the four patterns has five original items and an independent percentage. The highest marks the route currently activated most often. A high repair score does not mean no conflict, and another high pattern does not mean a relationship is failing.
How to use the result
Useful next steps include agreeing on pause length and return time, reflecting impact before explaining context, and handling one issue at a time. The result cannot identify an abuser and must not be used to ask someone to tolerate control or harm.
When a retake is useful
Answer about the same relationship under a comparable level of stress. If two people take it, read your own results first and then discuss one practical repair agreement.
Privacy and important limits
Answers, progress, and free results stay in the current browser. They are not uploaded with analytics or payment events. This original assessment is for self-reflection and conversation. It is not a clinical instrument, diagnosis, medical or sleep advice, relationship verdict, ability measure, or hiring decision.
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Common questions
Are higher percentages better?
No. A percentage describes the relative strength of one response pattern in this set of answers. It is not a score for maturity, health, or ability.
Can the result change?
Yes. Context, current state, interpretation, and new experience can change an answer pattern. Compare the full profile and the situations behind it rather than treating one label as permanent.
Published by Wiffar · Updated 2026-09-02