Connection Needs Map
Connection Needs Map is a 10-item self-report assessment that usually takes about 3 minutes. Discover what most readily makes you feel cared for, and where two people’s expressions may miss each other.
It translates the vague wish to feel cared for into preferences that can be discussed. It focuses on what most readily creates connection for you and where two people’s ways of expressing care may miss each other.
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What this test explores
The result covers affirming words, focused time, practical support, physical closeness, and thoughtful remembering. Questions ask about recurring reactions in ordinary situations. Answer from what you usually do, not the response that sounds most desirable.
How scoring works
Each of the five dimensions has two original items and is converted to 0–100. The highest becomes the current priority while all five scores remain visible. Because the assessment is brief, it is a conversation starter rather than a stable scale.
How to use the result
Turn the result into an actionable request, such as one phone-free dinner each week. Physical contact always requires clear mutual consent and comfort; a score cannot infer another person’s boundary.
When a retake is useful
Stress, relationship stage, and what currently feels absent can change the answers. A changed need does not make an earlier result wrong; retake after a meaningful context change if useful.
Privacy and important limits
Answers, progress, and free results stay in the current browser. They are not uploaded with analytics or payment events. This original assessment is for self-reflection and conversation. It is not a clinical instrument, diagnosis, medical or sleep advice, relationship verdict, ability measure, or hiring decision.
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Common questions
Are higher percentages better?
No. A percentage describes the relative strength of one response pattern in this set of answers. It is not a score for maturity, health, or ability.
Can the result change?
Yes. Context, current state, interpretation, and new experience can change an answer pattern. Compare the full profile and the situations behind it rather than treating one label as permanent.
Published by Wiffar · Updated 2026-09-02